5 Signs you may not be ready for a Christian marriage
Hey Queen!
Marriage is a sacred covenant under God, and preparing for it requires spiritual, and emotional, and maturity. If you’re unsure whether you’re ready for a Christian marriage, here are some key signs to reflect on:
1. Your Relationship with God Is Not a Priority
Marriage is meant to reflect Christ’s love for the church (Ephesians 5:25). If your personal relationship with God is not foundational to your life, it is impossible to build a Christ-centered marriage.
What To Look For:
• Struggling to prioritize prayer and bible study.
• Relying on your partner to lead your faith journey instead of pursuing God individually on your own.
2. You Struggle with Unresolved Personal Issues
Marriage doesn’t solve personal challenges—it often magnifies them. Whether it’s emotional wounds, unresolved past relationships, or unhealthy habits, these issues can hinder the health of a godly marriage.
What To Look For :
• Carrying unforgiveness, bitterness, or resentment toward others.
• Avoiding accountability for areas of personal growth and spiritual development.
3. You Have Unrealistic Expectations about Marriage
Marriage is a partnership that requires patience, sacrifice, and humility. If you’re expecting marriage to always feel easy, to “complete” you, or make you happy it will lead to disappointment.
What To Look For:
• Expecting your spouse to meet all of your emotional or spiritual needs.
• Viewing marriage as a solution to loneliness or low self-worth.
4. You Avoid Communication and Conflict
Healthy communication and conflict resolution are essential in marriage. If you struggle to express your feelings or handle disagreements with grace, and love you will find it challenging to resolve disagreements in marriage.
What To Look For:
• Avoiding difficult conversations or shutting down during disagreements.
• Struggling to listen or empathize with others.
5. You’re Not Aligned on Core Values
Marriage requires unity in values, goals, and faith. If you and your potential spouse are not aligned on foundational issues, it may be a sign to pause and reflect if God really wants you to pursue marriage.
What To Look For:
• Disagreeing on faith, family roles, or long-term goals.
• Ignoring red flags hoping issues will resolve themselves after marriage.
Marriage is a beautiful reflection of God’s love, but it requires readiness, maturity, and a commitment to glorify Him. If you notice any of these signs in your life, take time to seek God’s wisdom and prepare yourself for the lifelong commitment of marriage.
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Remember Queen, you do not have to walk this journey alone. Let me hold your hand and walk with you.
Until next time, take care!
